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Monday Mornings: She Said Yes

19 Aug

I prayed for her.

Not every day. Not even every week. But every so often. Watching my son playing on the playground, I might think of her and pray. When long strokes of cursive filled my journal, she would make it into the prayer requests from time to time. Sometimes I’d see him across the living room and I’d wonder. Where she was. What was she doing. Prayers would come.

I don’t believe there is one person God has picked out for you and you must find that person. To be honest, I’m not really sure how my prayers for her work. I’ve thought that part of praying for another is softening your own heart and preparing you for how life changes. That one day instead of my son looking at me with his big brown adoring eyes, his head would turn and he would be looking at another with those same eyes. One day instead of him reaching for my hand when he was scared or anxious, he would be reaching for another’s hand. Her hand. And when you’ve prayed for her for all those years you smile and you know. Your heart opens to encompass another.

That one day I saw the tenderness and the love in the midst of an anxious moment. The understanding for each others strengths and weaknesses. They walked out the door. Tears ran down my face. I asked God was she the one I had been praying for?

Then there was the conversation. The two asking us if we thought they were ready to be married. I cried. “So, you are the one I’ve prayed for all these years.” She cried, too.

The little boy who would gaze up at the stars and who memorized all the constellations took his telescope. . . the one his uncle and aunt bought him when he was in junior high and dreamed of being an astronomer. . . and he took her hand leading her into a field in the Minnesota countryside. The meteors fell from the sky. Somewhere between Saturn and the moon he knelt down and asked.

This morning perhaps I am thinking back a decade or two remembering the little boy now grown into the man. I’m thinking of all those prayers for him, for his future, just begging God at times to keep his safe from harm but not so safe that he didn’t learn a few things along the way. I’m remembering all those prayers for her- for a heart that loved God, for confidence in who God made her to be, for whatever it was that she needed right then. And my heart is full.

She said yes.

It’s Wedding Day

30 Jul

It was Christmas Eve. We had a surprise gift that year- a little guy coming 9 weeks early while we were out of town visiting family. I had a picture of him taped beside my bed while he fought for his life in NICU. I remember being scared to death. Would he make it? Would he have a future? Would I lose him?

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This 3 1/2 pound premie is now a  Children’s Pastor. He is funny and talented and energetic and thoughtful. He has brought us so much joy the last 22 years. I never imagined that day in the hospital bed that it would all turn out this way. But it did.  And today is his wedding day.

His fiance has been hanging around our home for almost five years now. They met in math class in high school- that first day he couldn’t take his eyes off her. So he pursued her like I’ve never seen anyone pursue someone. He was relentless. Somewhere along the way they fell in love.

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And our family fell in love with her.

Last September he drove her up to Duluth, Minnesota and along the North Shore stopping at Shovel Point. He led her out on a path overlooking Lake Superior, got down on one knee, and asked. She said yes. Some kind stranger recognized what was happening and quickly recorded the moment.

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Today they make it official but truthfully she has been a Goscha in our hearts for a long time.

It’s Wedding Day. The groom has left the house with his best men brothers and his groomsman cousin. My husband is upstairs- I can hear him moving around. And I’m sitting in a puddle of tears.

I’m overwhelmed with it all, I guess. How God has worked in our son’s life both physically and spiritually. I’m feeling like the most blessed mama in the world. I’m so full of gratitude for life and grace and love. I’m sad that our time with Zach in our home is closing but excited for the adventure he is beginning. I’m excited to welcome another daughter-in-law who has stolen our hearts. Sometimes it just feels like so much.

Today I will celebrate with incredible gratitude every single gift that God has given our family. It’s time to dry the tears. It’s time to move onto the next part of this great adventure of life and motherhood. It’s time to enter into this holy and sacred day with a full heart. engage city

Later today they will vow to serve God together. I’m not sure it gets any better than this.

 

Update: So this happened.

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Photo credit: Kallie Elizabeth Photography
Venue: Stillwater Historic Courthouse
Second shot with Jessica Stoe Photography

 

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What I’ve Been Up To This Summer

26 Aug

This summer I took a little break from blogging. There were a few things that kept me busy.

To start with there was a wedding in Georgia:

I officiated my first wedding. That's my nephew and his new wife. It was a family affair- my son was the best man, another son a groomsmen, another one the usher.

Yes, that is me officiating. My first wedding. Always good to try out the first time on a family member- my nephew. My sons were also in the wedding so it was pretty much a family affair. My middle son was best man. Which was funny as we recounted the brawl in the grandparent’s home at age two between the two and then there was the time at age 12 in Half Price Books where my nephew decked my son. Totally understandable because my son knows how to push all the right buttons. So there is always hope because. . . well, best man.

So sweet- my nieces and other nephew.

So sweet- my nieces and other nephew.

 

Our family and the girls in the hot Georgia sun after a long day of wedding fun.

Our family and the girls in the hot Georgia sun after a long day of wedding fun.

 

Then there was another wedding:

My son, Blaine, and his new wife, Belle.

My son, Blaine, and his new wife, Belle. Mr. and Mrs. Goscha. To find out exactly what I think about this read here.

 

 

There was a rehearsal dinner with a library/book theme.

There was a rehearsal dinner with a library/book theme. Every member of the wedding party and family picked a book especially for these two book lovers.

 

Then there was a wedding. Here I am waiting to be escorted down the aisle by my son. And then I was co-officiant with the bride's dad.

There was waiting for that moment to be escorted down the aisle by my son and then up on stage to co-officiate. Loved being able to do that and so honored they asked.

And there was a mother son dance. . . to You Are My Sunshine. Because I sang it to him all the time.

And there was a mother son dance. . . to You Are My Sunshine. Because I sang it to him all the time.

 

Then I turned 50 and this happened:

 

The lead pastor thought this would be a fun thing to put in our atrium at church.

The lead pastor thought this would be a fun thing to put in our atrium at church complete with 70’s music blaring. Because he is funny that way.

And my family gathered 50 gifts and 50 flowers with 50 things they loved about me. I have the best family. Ever.

And my family gathered 50 gifts and 50 flowers with 50 things they loved about me. I have the best family. Ever.

 

I stayed busy at church:

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I taught science camp at our church.

 I taught science camp at our church.

We did summer Sojourn outside (women's bible study) because. . .you now. . Minnesota.

We did summer Sojourn outside (women’s bible study) because. . .you know. . Minnesota.

 

There was cross training for the students and my son painted by one of our urban lakes.

There was cross training for the students and my son painted by one of our urban lakes.

This was the finished product. And he gave it away to a couple on the beach. We worked hard this summer to breathe life into people in so many different ways. This is just one.

This was the finished product. And he gave it away to a couple on the beach. We worked hard this summer to breathe life into people in so many different ways. This is just one.

 

Someone left kittens at our church. So we saved them. Addie Zierman wrote about it here.

Someone left kittens at our church. So we saved them. Addie Zierman wrote about it here.

 

We raised almost $10,000 with our Walk4Water event building a well in Angola.

We raised almost $10,000 with our Walk4Water event building a well in Angola.

 

And then there were a few other things:

I started an Around My Table dinner event each month. 30 women showed up at my house the first night.

I started an Around My Table dinner event each month. 30 women showed up at my house the first night. Thank you Shauna Niequist’s Bread and Wine and The Neighbor’s Table for the inspiration to start this. 

 

I tried to write on my back porch and soak up all the Minnesota sun because it won't last long.

I tried to write on my back porch and soak up all the Minnesota sun because it won’t last long. I think there was more soaking than writing that went on.

 

I fell in love all over again with this little cutie singing Let It Go and clunking around in her Great Grandma's high heels while I was finishing up wedding ceremony prep.

I fell in love all over again with this little cutie flower girl singing “Let It Go” and clunking around in her Great Grandma’s high heels while I was finishing up wedding ceremony prep. She might have walked down the aisle at the wedding and then dumped every single flower petal in a heap at the end. And then cheered.

 

I got to know my son's girlfriend so much better this summer. She is a fun, laughs a lot, responsible, and is so good for him.

This girl. She is fun, responsible, caring, hard working and full of laughter. Plus she is really good for my son. Loved getting to know her better this summer.

 

And after the weddings we went to the lake. And this is what I did for a week.

After the weddings we escaped to a week at a cabin. I did THIS all week. Highly recommended for any one with a season of family weddings.

 

What did you do this summer?