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When Gratitude Opens Our Eyes

16 Nov

It’s been 18 years ago today.

That day that we were able to meet our daughter, Victoria Rose, even though her soul had already been carried to heaven.

The truth is I don’t think about her every day. Not even every week. On the other hand there are times when the grief feels almost fresh and I surprise myself by breaking down crying at unexpected moments. Like when my son got married and my daughter-in-law’s mom helped her into her wedding dress and I realized I’d never get to do that with my daughter. Or that November when I recognized that she would have been getting her driver’s license. Or years ago when I would wander through the little girl dress section at the local department store around Easter and pick out the dress I would have put her in.

The thing about stillbirth is you don’t have a lot of memories. The ones you have are precious- feeling the baby move inside you, seeing the baby on the ultrasound, picking out all the things, the anticipation. Instead of being left with lots of memories and missing those things attached to the memories, you are left with “what if.”

What if she had lived? What would our life have been like with three boys and then a girl? What would she have been like?

This is what I think: She would have had long blonde hair. I think she would have been a princess but not in the pink and frilly dress type. No, she had three older brothers who weren’t really into babying anyone. So I think she would have been the princess superhero. She would have fought evil along side of those superheroes growing up. She would have tried to keep those three in line and I’d like to think that she might have succeeded a bit. She would have been strong- you have to with three older brothers. I’d like to think that she would have been compassionate and loving and adventurous. It would have been fun watching her blossom into whatever God made her to be.

This year it seems harder. That date. Nov. 16. Perhaps it is because we would have been about done with the growing up years. She would have been thinking about prom and graduation and college and dreaming of her life out in the world. We would have been getting ready to launch her praying with everything we had that she was ready. Today there is a bit more sadness as I realize that the little girl I mourn would not be so little anymore but would have been a young woman.

In Sojourn, a community women’s Bible study I lead, we’ve been talking about gratitude. Today the topic is “Gratitude Opens Our Eyes.” I believe that with all my heart. It opens our eyes to see God. I’ve experienced it over and over again.

Today let me count the gifts. Let me name the gifts with a heart full of gratitude for all Victoria’s life brought me:

  1. I learned how to have compassion at a deeper level especially for those experiencing loss.
  2. I was able to hold my daughter.
  3. God’s peace was so evident in the room that day.
  4. God’s peace followed us in the days after- literally feeling Him hold me at night as I wept.
  5. I have a daughter.
  6. Her life inspired others to turn to God. There are many stories surrounding that.
  7. Unfolding her little ear that was folded over.
  8. Her tiny perfect fingernails. Her tiny perfect fingers.
  9. I am filled with love when I think of her. . . not bitterness.
  10. Kind nurses and doctors that day.
  11. Two ornaments that hang on my Christmas tree made by women who understood loss.
  12. Her tiny perfect mouth.
  13. Those who cried with us, held us, brought us food, sent us cards. Who were present with us.
  14. The picture of my boys at church praying for us with their heads on each others shoulders while we were at the hospital. So glad someone took it and gave it to me. Precious.
  15. The reminder that I’m a sojourner here on earth. This isn’t forever.

As it happens over and over- that as I’ve listed these grateful things, a miracle occurs.

My eyes are opened to see God. In the midst He was there, He is here.

 

Life is a gift. Even if it only lasts a moment.

10 Family Thanksgiving Ideas

25 Nov

1. Make a Gratitude Jar. Read more here.

Thanks Jar

2. Have some fun with the words Gratitude and Attitude with this simple object lesson.

3. Make a tablecloth using kid’s hand prints. Pull it out each year.

thanksgiving tablecloth

From homeplatefun.blogspot.com

4. Play charades. Each team writes things they are thankful for on small pieces of paper. The other team draws one at a time and acts these things out.

5. Have each child stand with a chalkboard (or paper) telling something they are thankful for. Take a picture. Keep the pictures in an album and add to it each year.

thankfulboard

6. Place a question by each table settting. During dinner go around the table and have each person answer the question. Some questions to ask:

>>What two positive words describe the person sitting on your right?

>>What is the most significant gift you have ever received?

>>Describe your most memorable Thanksgiving.

>>If you could ask any Bible character to Thanksgiving dinner, who would it be? Why?

7. Make a photo booth with Thanksgiving props. Have fun taking pics. Free downloadable props here.

Thanks to thedatingdiva.com

Thanks to thedatingdivas.com

8. Keep kids busy by weaving placemats. Find instructions here along with other craft ideas.

From saratogamama.com

From saratogamama.com

9. Go turkey bowling. Just make these bowling pins and roll a football toward the turkeys.

From makeandtakes.com

From makeandtakes.com

10. Make a gratitude journal. Each year add to it. Nothing fancy, just simple lists of what each family member is thankful for.  Think how much fun it will be to read this in the future.

From pennywiseblog.blogspot.com

From pennywiseblog.blogspot.com

Interested in more ideas? Read this or this. And find more ideas on our Pinterest board.

What have you done creative to make Thanksgiving memorable in your home?

Gratitude Object Lesson

12 Nov

Looking for a quick and simple object lesson to use during the Thanksgiving season?  Use this is the classroom, large group setting or at home. Just modify for your individual situation.

Word Twist

Supplies:
ƒ Ten pieces of colored paper, ƒ Marker or pen

Preparation: On each colored sheet of paper, write one letter from the word “GRATITUDE.” On the remaining sheet of paper write “T.”

Pick ten children to hold the letters to the word “Gratitude.”

Does anyone know what this word means, gratitude? When we have gratitude, that means we are thankful for something. We do not just expect that thing or take that thing for granted.

Sometimes it is hard to have gratitude. Can you think of a time when it might be hard to be grateful? (Give children an opportunity to respond.)

(Have the children holding the G and R sit down. Have someone stand between the A and T with another T.)

Now what word have we made? Attitude. Our attitude can help us be thankful or keep us from being thankful. What kind of attitude keeps us from being thankful?
(Have everyone but the I and the U sit down.)

When all we think about is “I,” it keeps us from being thankful. However, when we have an attitude where we think of “U,” as in others and God, we will have the right attitude to be thankful.
Excerpt from Give Thanks  a stand alone download lesson available from River’s Edge.